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To be honest, 2016 kinda knocked me off my feet – but in a good way, I think. The rough break up in the beginning started everything out on a *great* note and then learning how to mentally balance life and work, while figuring out how and when to separate the two, has been interesting. Understanding that there are always going to be days when you don’t feel good enough for your boss – even if that’s yourself – is inevitable. Then came the life changing move to a new city that has continued to challenge me as an independent, single, 25-year-old freelancer trying to make it in this world.

I took a mental vacation this week (thx Mexico) from the constant pressure of feeling like I’m never caught up and never doing enough. When I lived with Nani she used to tell me all the time that sometimes you need to sit and stare out the window and just think. I’d laugh at her and tell her that’s just an old person comment who can’t operate an iPhone.. but once again, Nani is right. Taking time to think and reflect is just good for ya.

Because the truth is – pain and hard times are temporary. And you cannot fully experience the joy and happiness this life has to offer unless you experience those rough patches. The harder the disappointment the more beautiful the victory, right? 2016 has taught me a lot, so I can’t complain about it too much…. I’ve learned that you will make it through that month you couldn’t get yourself out of bed in the morning and that’s it’s not a bad life – just a bad month.  You’ll realize how much you love something when it’s taken away from you. You will understand the importance of true friendship when you’re mind isn’t pre-occupied with romantic relationships. You will realize how small your problems are in comparison to the the larger problems that exist in the world, you’ll mend petty problems with friends and family because grudges are exhausting. You will learn to love yourself again and get rid of insecurities that developed along the way from people who don’t deserve another second of your time. And, eventually the idea of falling in love again will slowly and quietly make its way back into your heart. And probably make you a lot smarter, more rational, and better prepared to love and understand the right way this time around. Things will happen when they’re supposed to happen for you. Patience and enjoying the ride is the key of all keys you guys.

 

One of my favorite quotes is that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. And ironically, some of the most perfect things in my life have all happened because of the bumps and turns along the way. And you know what.. the people who are really winning at life are the ones who know how to truly appreciate the moment they’re living in, love the ones they’re with, and not give society’s definition of success the time of day. Be thankful for the lessons you learned this year – even if they hurt. You’re so much stronger because of them!

 

Happy New Year! I feel so lucky to have the support of all of you who take the time to read my blog and follow along on my social media. I hope I can continue to reach those of you navigating similar paths and journeys and that the inspiration might be just what you need some days. Love love love ya. xo, liv
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  • Brenna
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    Thank you for this Olivia. There is hope in the Lord and there is hope in the new. Praying that you have a wonderful New Year and rest of 2016. Finding pure joy outweighs happiness 1 million to 1.

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thank you so so much Brenna, I hope your 2017 is wonderful!!

  • Olivia Rezac
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    You have given me so much strength this past year, Olivia. I can’t begin to explain how helpful it was to have you to look to when days were dark and I felt I couldn’t take anymore. You are a bright light in my life, and you change the way I see the world. Thank you for writing and for sharing your realness and knowledge with young women like myself.
    Happy New Year! I hope 2017 brings you nothing but happiness. 🙂

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      Olivia Rink
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      TEARS! You have no idea how much that means to me Olivia! I’m so glad my blog has made us friends and thank you for always supporting me 🙂 You are a smart and beautiful girl, your future is so bright! Happy New Year lovely 🙂

  • Morgan Moses
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    Thank you, Olivia! You don’t know how much I needed to hear this!! 💕

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      Olivia Rink
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      I’m so glad. Hope your 2017 is your best year yet. Thank you so much for reading Morgan 🙂

  • Jenna
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    I loved this post, Olivia! I went through a break up this year too, and your words really resonated with me. Thanks for being you, girl! Cheers to 2017 🙂

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      Olivia Rink
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      They’re horrible but they do teach you a ton about yourself and about life in general. Hope your 2017 is wonderful and filled with happiness. Thank you so much for reading Jenna!

  • Becca Raines
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    Such an awesome post. Really enjoyed reading this!

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thank you Becca!

  • Amanda Juillerat
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    You always find the right words. Thanks for sharing, I needed to read this!

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      Olivia Rink
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      So glad you stopped by to read, thanks Amanda 🙂

  • Allie
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    I absolutely love reading everything you write. Thank you for sharing throughout 2016! xx-Al

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thank you SO much Allie, that means a lot to me. HAPPY new year 🙂

  • Lisa Ortiz
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    Always love reading your blogs! It is easy to see how kind and honest your heart is. Keep doing what you’re doing!

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thank you so much for taking the time to read Lisa. Hope you year is wonderful 🙂

  • Ali Stone
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    Beautiful, Olivia! What wise words. Happy new year girlfriend! 2017 is gonna be a good one! XO

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thanks sweet girl. Wishing you the best year!

  • Davida
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    Great post love. Hope you enjoy the rest of your vacation and have a happy New Year!

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thank you Davida, Happy New Year!

  • Rachel @ Better LIVIN
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    Great post! It’s always good to look at the lessons learned after a life challenge.

  • Heather
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    So relatable on almost every level!!

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thanks for reading heather 🙂

  • Andre
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    So good! Thanks, Liv 🙂

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      Olivia Rink
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      Thanks Andre, happy 2017 I hope it’s wonderful 🙂

  • Mallori
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    What a beautiful and much needed post. Have a happy New Year and I cannot wait to see all the wonderful things 2017 brings you, Olivia. Thank you for sharing your strength and positivity.

  • Jaclyn Rothschadl
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    Such a fan of you and can’t explain how great of a role model you are for a 20 year old single lady (we have lots of similarities from what I can tell!) ! All your posts are powerful, but this one HIT HOME! Wishing you an even better year full of adventures and lessons!

  • Vanessa Krombeen
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    Liv, you are such a #girlboss! Keep on pressing, there are so many people who LOVE your blog and look up to you – you should be so proud! xx.

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  • Rachel
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    I love this thank you so much for sharing!!!

  • Jennke
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    Love these thoughts, thank you for sharing 😊

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