I’ve come to realize that the key to confidence can be summed up in a few words: fake it til you make it. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in-between, sometimes what it really comes down to is which one you’ve made up in your mind to be.
I believe having an outgoing & confident personality can really benefit your life – especially when it comes to your career & personal relationships. In no way would I consider myself a super outgoing person (especially when I was younger) but over the last few years, I’ve pushed myself to come out of my shell by using the 5 tips I’ve written about below. Even if you’re the most UNsocial butterfly, it’s not a lost cause, there are so many ways to work on your interpersonal skills!
A few things that have worked for me:
Smile a lot, make eye contact, have approachable posture, walk with your shoulders back (feels stupid but I swear it makes a difference!).
Surrounding yourself with bold personalities
You become like the people you spend the most time with, so start taking tips from your most outgoing friends! I love hanging out with some of my most extra friends because they definitely tend to rub off on me.
Force yourself into uncomfortable situations
There’s really no way around it than to force yourself into the situations you’re the most afraid of. I actually really don’t like the idea of public speaking and if I could avoid it for the rest of my life I wouldn’t be mad. But, I’ve been forcing myself to do more video and get involved in public speaking opportunities because I’m always up for a challenge in areas of my life I feel could use some work!
Last, but MOST important. Be genuine. Show a genuine interest in others. Ask questions AND LISTEN. Bond on a shared experience. Connect and engage. The more you focus on this the less you’ll be thinking about yourself. Relating to other people is what gives me confidence in a situation – the whole “oh you too??” – moment is where I find comfort. Aim to connect, not to impress.
Like any skill, this is all about your mindset, practice, and pushing through the discomfort as you progress. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic – who else believes this is something that can be improved? Do you have any ‘success’ stories that have helped build your confidence? Comment below or in the Instagram comments in this post, I’d love to hear from you!! 🙂