One of my most frequently asked questions is what to wear for engagement photos. But…since I’d never thought twice about that before I was actually engaged, I never really knew what to tell people 🤷🏼
Then I got engaged, and I’ll admit…picking these outfits out felt a little daunting. HOW to decide what to wear for THEE engagement pics? I shoot outfits all the time, but even I felt a little overwhelmed. Alicia and I spent some time the night before laying everything out and planning out the shoot day, then the next morning we headed out like we usually do ~ suitcase in hand with a few outfit changes! It was so special to shoot these with her and made me and Con even more excited for the big day 🙂
Once I started picking locations for the shoots, the outfits started to fall into place. I had a pretty simple strategy when it finally came down to what to wear. I’m sharing a preview from each shoot we did (more to come!) to give you some ideas. (We obviously shot during the colder months, so will vary if shooting in spring/summer).
The Casual Coffee Shop Outfit
I chose a neutral color scheme for this casual look we shot at the restaurant where we had our first date. Cream and tan are two of my favorite colors to wear together, so I loved this outfit. I wore an off the shoulder fitted cream sweater with tan colored high-waisted trouser pants with pearl stud earrings.
The Location: This is Terra Wine Bar in Tribeca. It’s an intimate Italian dinner spot where we had our first date AND where we had dinner the night Conner proposed, so this place will always be so special to us. Every time I walked by it I always thought shooting through the window would be so cute here, so I’m glad we tried it! It’s tricky to nail this, but of course Alicia killed it.
My Outfit: This is the exact top and linking similar pants but this would also look cute with jeans and booties.
What Conner wore: Conner wore a cream colored long sleeve shirt with a tan suede bomber jacket, dark Allsaints jeans, and beige colored suede Chelsea boots.
Black and White ‘In The Park’ Outfit
I loved the simplicity of the all black and white theme, it made styling our outfits easy. When it’s cold outside, it’s hard to find something to wear that’s weather appropriate other than jeans and a sweater. I wanted something form fitting and feminine that covered me head to toe, so I paired a tight black turtleneck top with a black and white tweed skirt, sheer panty hose, and OTK boots.
The Location: Tribeca Park will always be a meaningful place for us. When we first started dating (long distance), Conner was living in his first apartment in New York City in Tribeca. This is the neighborhood where we spent the first two years of our relationship, so we know it by heart. (More on our story here if you haven’t read it).
My Outfit: This is the exact skirt, but almost sold out so I’m linking other options! This is my exact turtleneck top. Other turtleneck top, boots, and coat linked here too:
What Conner wore: We made outfits changes simple for him and had him throw on a black and white plaid peacoat on over the same jeans he had on but just changed from tan Chelsea boots to black Chelsea boots. More shoe ideas for him here.
A Pop of Color
I always think a bold pop of color brings personality to a photo and captures the eye. I knew shooting on the Brooklyn Bridge would be a little chaotic, so I thought wearing something bold and bright would distract from all the people in the background! Plus, I knew the red would add some color to the photos with the muted brown bridge. We shot these during Christmas time, so I wanted something festive to remember that time of year. We got here right before sunset and I LOVE how the sky turned blue with the city lights in the background.
The Location: I knew I wanted to shoot something on the Brooklyn Bridge ~ it’s what we look at every day right outside our apartment window and it’s just a few blocks away, so it’s a special spot for us. It definitely takes a lot of patience and people dodging to shoot here, but it’s worth it!
Conner’s Outfit: Again girls, keep it simple for the guys. The peacoats were perfect together.
The “Every Day Life” Street Style Outfit
A week before we shot these, Conner and I had an awesome experience finding our winter coats at Rudsak in NYC. We love these coats SO much and basically live in them here in the city. I love this look because it’s true to what we wear all the time in our every day lives.
The Location: Alicia had shot in this location before and knew it would be perfect for the coats. I wanted a “street style” vibe and loved how the stripes on the pavement added contrast to these pics. This was 1 block from where his old apartment was in Tribeca and next to the subway station he took every day to work (Corner of Franklin and W Broadway).
My Outfit: I’m wearing the MODA in an XS (love it SO much). Boots are Stuart Weitzman and dotted tights linked here.
Conner’s Outfit: Coat swap! His exact coat is sold out, but this was the runner up option when we were picking them out!
The Formal Outfit
You guys know I love any excuse to get dressed up, so this felt like an appropriate moment for a tux and a gown 🙂
The Location: The iconic Beekman Hotel (est. 1761) has been a staple for us ever since we moved into our apartment. It’s about 2 blocks from our building and one of our favorite places to grab a late night drink, have coffee, or a nice dinner. It’s also the hotel my parents stay in every time they come to visit. If you’ve never been, have drinks in the Bar Room underneath the gorgeous 9 story atrium next time you’re in town.
Conner’s Outfit: A custom Balani Tux ~ more photos and details from this shoot here.
- If you’re laughing and making fun of each other throughout the shoot, the pics will look great. Don’t take it too seriously!
- Look for images you love beforehand on Pinterest and show them to your fiancé and your photographer.
- Wine helps. Pop some champagne before the shoot or treat your guy to his favorite cocktail mid shoot (I think Con had bourbon on the rocks at the Beekman hotel before 10 AM, LOL). It’s normal to feel a little camera shy before the shoot, which is why it’s important to choose a photographer you feel comfortable with!
- Stay away from anything too bulky like thick sweaters ~ you know what they say about the camera adding 10 lbs 😅. (I know we wore parkas, but they were actually pretty tailored and it was like 10 degrees). Fitted turtlenecks/tops are key. I’m always so comfortable in these and they pair well with pretty much anything! Artizia has the best ones.
- Pick locations that have meaning! It will help you narrow down spots and gives a special backstory to each photo that you’ll remember forever.
- Don’t be afraid to switch your hair up! It makes each shot look different.
- Get cozy and snuggle up. Your photographer will guide you and tell you things to help you pose/laugh. Have fun with it, relax, and cherish ever single moment!
Remember, these photos are for you two to look back on when you’ve been married for years. It’s not about how they’ll look on social media or how “perfect” they are. Some of my favorite photos from the shoot are the goofy ones that may never make it to the social world. I have one more shoot to share with you guys (it’s my favorite!), but we’re using them for the Save The Dates! So I’ll be posting those all together soon once we send them out. If you read this post let me know tonight on IG which one was your favorite ♥️ Thanks for reading!
I love this post! I love how you wore the red on the Brooklyn Bridge! That was stunning and such a wonderful idea!
All of these photos are absolutely beautiful! You two make a stunning couple!!
Great tips! I need to decide what/where I’ll be doing mine 🙂
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I love your advice about not taking it too seriously and having fun with it! I am actually getting my senior pictures done soon and have been nervous about making them look “perfect,” so this was great for me to hear! Your photos are beautiful as always!
Thanks for all the tips, great photos!
Hi, the link to your red coat is broken. Where is it from?
you two are a stunning couple, I love your photos and the modern classic look it has, I wanted to do a pre-wedding photoshoot and I am the same height as my husband (maybe half an inch taller !) what you suggest me to wear / what pose to do so photos look good?
Beautiful engagement photos!
Love these tip ideas! I will refer to this post next time we get this question!